• Lydia

How personal is too personal?

Over Christmas we were asked to produce a “passion project”. Basically, a campaign done independently that ideally matters to you. People often choose to focus on a charity or social issue but this isn’t a requirement. When they brought this up a few months ago I knew that I wanted to use it as an excuse to work through some of my own issues. Sounds healthy right…? In 2019 I had to finally accept that someone in my family has a drinking problem. Well, more than that really. They are an alcoholic. I don’t know how personal to get on here. I haven’t shared this link with family but obviously the internet is not private. It is a particularly sticky issue as it isn’t something I’ve confronted them about yet. Partially for selfish reasons but also because now isn’t the time. And they would take it very badly. And I don’t know if it would do any good to be honest. But as a result I feel quite snakey forming a project about this. But here we are anyway. I am working on a campaigning for Al-Anon UK Family Groups who run meetings and a helpline. They “provide support to anyone whose life is, or has been, affected by someone else’s drinking, regardless of whether that person is still drinking or not”. I attended a couple of meetings to "do research" for this project but in reality it was so I could get help. I don’t think I would have made it if not for the time pressure of the project. So I guess for that it was worth it. I’m not currently going to the meetings as life got pretty overwhelming. But I know how to access them now. And I learned from them. This whole project has been very difficult for me to put together and I hope I do it justice. And I hope the person who inspires it never sees it.